Family and Friends

When someone offers to help, let them. So many times, our friends and family offer their help and we turn them away, afraid to burden them. Even when we want help, it can be difficult to know what we need when we're feeling overwhelmed. Asking people for help during this time is a blessing for both of you, and they will be honored to fulfill whatever duty you give them - just make sure they are dependable.

Some may have a creative flair and can take on the role of putting together a beautiful memory board or service program. Some could be available to run errands. Others could be organizational geniuses and make sure everyone is doing what they've been assigned to do.

Some areas where you can count on friends and family are:

Administrative matters

  • Have them notify the family attorney, clergy, social and business associates
  • Let them be responsible for handling phone calls and taking messages
  • Keep track of gifts, food offerings, letters of condolence, flowers, etc so the family can send thank-you notes
  • Have them create a Heart2Soul Community, to make sure everyone can communicate and stay up to date on arrangement information

Family matters

  • Talk to your friends and let them help you with your grief
  • Let them organize the meals and make sure there is food on the table
  • Find child care for small children
  • Make travel arrangements for out-of-town guests and arrange to meet them at airports, trains or bus stations

Funeral plans

  • Research and locate funeral providers
  • Attend meetings regarding funeral plans and take notes
  • Help with decisions regarding clothing for burial and deliver to the funeral provider
  • Help plan a reception after the funeral by offering suggestions on location, or preparing and organizing food
  • Coordinate plans with the cemetery or crematorium
  • Create a service program to be handed out at the ceremony
  • Ask them to help with hosting responsibilities

Heart2Soul on Facebook
Heart2Soul on Twitter
Healing: The Essential Guide to Helping Others Overcome Grief and Loss
By Alicia King
Alicia King